pre-marital sex

is like the forbidden fruit. everyone warns you not to eat of it, but still there exists that desire. the mtv videos-people do it, the clubbing people do it too, they say that polytechnic students have all done it, even the hamsters and birds and bees are doing it.

but it's not worth it. it's NOT worth giving yourself up to someone before the person could promise to commit yourself (marriage). at. all.

firstly, there is the strong emotional attachment, especially for girls. even for a relationship with minimal physical contact, the break up is never a good thing. what more if you have invested your body into it?

is it worth having a lifetime of regret for that moment of lust? why would you want to live your life comparing and thinking of what-would-have-beens and feel your heart wasting away, having thought that you are now stuck with the second-best.

the strong emotional attachment comes with the anguish and shame, it's all in a package. then it's never good if you were to find out that your ex is with someone else, and it's going to be awkward beyond words, heartbreaking even, intimate lovers turned into hateful strangers.

secondly, there comes the baby part.

babies-the one thing everyone love and want to cuddle, suddenly turned into an unwanted thing you want to dispose of. do things have to turn into this state?

"why can he go out but i cant?" she sobbed when she was woken up to take care of the baby. that, is the fate that all girls are stuck with. it's always the losing end for a girl.

do stuntsmen not get insurance before trying out stunts? why do you think you're so clever!! no matter how much the guy could promise his ways into convincing you to do the deed, and no matter how much the guy is committed to you, NEVER NEVER fall for it. a girl and a baby are 2 different things.guys could run away from you as long as you have babies, as if you have herpes. babies tie them down, they say.

so right now my niece is without a dad. and even if she has one, would he deserve of her loving? she may even be better off without one. you would only curse your enemies to not have a dad, so why do you want to curse yourself by getting involved in premarital sex.

without marriage you are setting yourself to liabilities, which means $$$$$-loss, big time. a marriage protects you, at least financially. "we will all lose our charms, again.." a wise woman gets the guy to marry her!

in (abrupt) conclusion, think of the consequences. never worth it.

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Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

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i wrote this while reflecting upon my sister's mistakes and feeling the burdens of people probably getting into this fixture. someday if i ever had a child on my own, i would teach him/her this. guess i have never been taught about this topic hence my resentment when i was younger. i asked my mother whether i could have a boyfriend in primary 6 and she said NO without offering an explanation. hahaha so naive then.