physical

how physical do you get with your friends?

for myself, i do not like being touched at all and am not used to actions like hugs or holding arms. i dont hug my mother or father; the thought of it is so foreign. i cannot imagine hugging them even if theyre old and unfeeling. i dont give departure hugs and rarely initiate them- even the close friends like jamie and debbie, we dont do hugs!

for one thing, i really dislike it when people get touchy-close to me, especially if it is sudden and unwarranted. i get extremly irritated when someone yanks down the collar of my shirt just to see what im wearing on the inside or touch my thigh when my attention is needed. i do not like it when i am doing work on my laptop and get a head pop up soo close next to mine just to see what i am up to. i hate it i hate it i hate it! i shall scream the next time i feel violated that way, again.

i feel that all of us should be able to keep a respectable distance from one another. it makes me uncomfortable, and i am not ultra-weird or anything. my expectations are normal enough. it is what it is expected when you go to workplace or meeting new people. if subconsciously these things are done, i hope that by voicing my discomfort, they could be changed.

it is simple to get my attention: looking at my face (not chest not mouth or anything) and say "eh janet" or tapping on my shoulders if my back is toward you. ask if you wish to know what i am wearing beneath my cardigan. simple!

i didnt confront directly; this saves on the awkwardness i hope.