maid frustration

right now i am at home feeling very sluggish and watching and hearing the maid cry. -_- she was careless just now and the baby fell down and hit her head. the thud was quite loud according to my mother who was in the kitchen cooking, so she was quite shocked and rightfully angry, not angry as in want to kill people kinda angry- maybe i am biased- but it's the chiding kind of angry. dont like it when the maid is like being sad like my mum bullied her, coz it's NOT that. and she is handling a dear child, she is not expected to pay hospital bills or can reverse the hurt the child suffers from.

some time ago about 1 month?, the maid used my sister's blusher on the baby's cheeks. my mum was really shocked upon discovering the baby's cheek exceptionally pink and found out there was the makeup that the maid applied to see how cute baby is??! my mum was angry coz she knew that baby's skin is sensitive and really hated putting makeup on children. she said "even 11 year old kids i also fear putting makeup on them!" so a few hours later there is a slight red rash on baby's cheek. their skin is indeed really really sensitive. i was quite mad but kept quiet coz i hate it whenever the maid sniffles so loudly in the room we share in. it gets annoying and i cannot sleep, no matter how tired i am, whenever she does that. i mean, you wouldnt want your own child to be treated like some clown by others right? to put makeup on and your expensive makeup used and possibly damaged in the process.

okay i really do not think i am mean to her, like what weiliang likes to think "janet is bullying the maid again!" i can justify one and every single bad feeling i have toward her.. i guess she's young (not older than me as her employment cert claims but i think 16?) and really inexperiened. she doesnt know that being a good employee means to be able to own up to mistakes and willing to correct flaws. she always say "no no no" whenever it is obvious that she made the mistake, then afterward when proven, would giggle it off, coz my mum is a really nice and jovial woman.

i really really do feel fortunate that i am not born into a poor background and forced to be a maid know. anyway the lesson learnt is, try to look after your own child as much as you can, and if unable to, ask for the grandparents' help. otherwise, if at wit's end, hire a maid, but try to get one who is really old, experienced or have brought up children already.


EDIT!!!
i gave the maid some money to buy bubble tea for me and her. she seemed to cheer up now. haha. the wonders of a cup of bubble tea.

oh yeah i let the baby tried to drink from the straw, instead of sucking, she blew into it, so creating bubbles in my bubble tea and she looked up at me and gave that happy face. heee! baby is so silly.

now, this is a reason why i dont want my sister to read my blog. she can create infinite fuss over me mistreating baby by allowing her to drink my bubble tea? yeah i know i know maybe she really disliked it. but she's irritating. she should try taking care of her own baby sometimes.

was reading the library magazines.
quote from the Vogue magazine i am reading by Halle Berry:
"When I was a kid, my mother told me that if you could not be a good loser, then there's no way you could be a good winner. If you weren't able to take criticism, then you were not worthy of getting praise".
makes alot sense huh. another resolution to add on this year, be a good loser. saw somewhere that says that i am a non-confrontational person so that makes me not good for managerial positions... got to think about that! it's really true that i hate HATE HATE confrontations. whenever i confront someone, it's really BAD, like an all-out kinda dams-breaking disaster. dont like it but should i do it? sigh.